February 2012
2 posts
Asexual PoC
asexualeducation:
A new tumblr blog has been created specifically for those who’re PoC and asexual. I would highly recommend following it even if you’re not a PoC but only to observe and learn, rather than contribute.
http://asexualpocsunite.tumblr.com/
PoC = People of colour.
January 2012
2 posts
Different types of attraction.
asexualeducation:
Sexual attraction: When one desires to have sexual relations with another specific person or persons. Sometimes it is felt along with other forms of attraction such as, romance, friendship.
“That guy is so damn sexy, I could take him to bed and shag him all night long.”
Romantic attraction: When one desires to have a romantic relationship with another specific person or...
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What is it like to be asexual? →
turningblacktables:
Well, this was a nice surprise to see featured on the BBC homepage.
November 2011
2 posts
Let's Not Generalize, Please →
writingfromfactorx:
“Look. When you say “you know you’re ace when someone makes an innuendo and you think of something completely unrelated to sex?” That erases the experience of a lot of aces. Mine, for one–I usually see the innuendo. Or not being able to comprehend “sexy”–oh, come on, I can tell when someone is gorgeous and I’ve never had any trouble understanding what “sexy” means, if only...
PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT
southpawscopic:
hernameishelen:
DEMISEXUALS ONLY HAVE SEX EXPERIENCE SEXUAL ATTRACTION TO PEOPLE THEY LOOOOOOVE THEY EXPERIENCE SECONDARY SEXUAL ATTRACTION WITH.
DEMISEXUALS ARE ALL SLUT SHAMERS PEOPLE WHO EXPERIENCE SECONDARY SEXUAL ATTRACTION BUT NOT PRIMARY SEXUAL ATTRACTION.
PRIMARY SEXUAL ATTRACTION IS SLUTTY MC SLUT SLUT SEXUAL ATTRACTION BASED OFF OF IMMEDIATELY OBSERVABLE FACTS,...
October 2011
6 posts
Asexuality Studies →
outlawroad:
Just discovered this site, not sure how I missed it! But I’m linking for anyone who’s also oblivious. I’m really happy to see research being done in a scientific, academic, intellectual manner.
:)
Aromantic Secrets!
southpawscopic:
arosecret:
For better or worse, whether we crash and burn or survive and flourish, Aro Secret is now open. Modelled after the popular postsecret and queersecrets, Aro Secret is a platform for anonymous venting based on and around anything to do with aromantics and the aromantic spectrum.
We accept images, text and quote formats. Aro Secret wants to be as accessible as...
1 tag
backwardsandinheels asked: I love this blog, but I'd love to read a blog geared specifically towards aromantics too. Any suggestions?
It's just so annoying.
hopesichord:
Listen, Donald Glover and others of the internet:
I think I was seven when I had this sort of realization that I would be single probably forever. This wasn’t even something I felt bad about, or sad about — it was a fact. I knew this at seven. When I was 13 I lamented the fact that I couldn’t join a nunnery without converting to Catholicism, like that would give me a place in...
CRY FOR HELP.
thecuntmentality:
tangentteaparty:
no, i’m not committing suicide. but i do need a bit of assistance.
for those who don’t know, i work at my university’s lgbt center. we have a smallish library which is woefully under-stocked and out-of-date. since none of my coworkers really care for books or libraries as much i do, i have made it my task this year to collect books i think need to be on our...
UK magazine looking for young Asexual Woman...
nethdugan:
So I originally spotted this on AVEN here so they’ve been vetted to make sure they’re not voyeurs or something. She’s from Grazia.
Thing is, several people (including me) have responded that we’re happy to talk to her we just don’t want our picture taken. Thus I thought to put the call out to tumblr - asexuals exist outside of AVEN after all.
So if you’re an asexual women, willing...
September 2011
6 posts
1 tag
A Gray Asexual Space →
metapianycist:
Looking for two other people to be moderators with me. To apply, write a few sentences in the submit box about why you think you would do a good job as a moderator for A Gray Asexual Space, and include your email address. Willingness to be accessible in terms of trigger warnings (as described here, here, here and here) and image descriptions (as described here and here) on the...
Gray-Asexuality
Asexuality and sexuality are not black and white; some people identify in the gray (spelled “grey” in some countries) area between them. People who identify as gray-A can include, but are not limited to those who:
do not normally experience sexual attraction, but do experience it sometimes
experience sexual attraction, but a low sex drive
experience sexual attraction and drive, but not...
Asexual Survey (This is important, guys!)
quirkysaur:
Via the marvellous Ninny:
“I’m sure a lot of you know about/completed this already but… Please take the Asexual Awareness Week Asexy Census! To be scientifically representative, the census needs at least 500 responses. If this happens the results can go towards future academic research into asexuality, and give us a better understanding of the asexual population. Please...
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Help Asexual Awareness Week raise $1,000!
acesecrets:
Asexual Awareness Week (October 23-29 2011) needs to raise $1,000 to buy copies of (A)sexual and to create a web advertising campaign.
The money will be spent on two things:
1. $500 will be allotted for a web advertising campaign that introduces asexuality to the wider public and directs people to the Asexual Awareness Week website. 2. $500 will be allotted for purchasing...
Survey of Tumblr Queer Community →
demisexuality:
Sorry to bother, but I figured this would help get as much publicity as possible.
I am trying to get basic demographic information about the queer tumblr community. Unfortunately I was a little limited on questions (only 10) but in my survey, I’m including aromantic, aces, demisexuals, etc. And fuck anyone who doesn’t consider them to be in the queer community cause I sure as...
3 tags
A PSA About Asexuality and Aromanticism
outlawroad:
Dear World,
Please take note of the following facts about asexual and aromantic people.
——
Asexuality is an orientation based on the lack of sexual attraction to other humans beings.
This means asexual people never look at other human beings and experience an arousal response or a desire to have sex with them.
That is all it means.
Some asexual people still have a sex drive and...
August 2011
7 posts
Anonymous asked: Is there perhaps a Grey-A tumblr of which you might know? Like one specifically for them?
Link Submission?
Hello! I was wondering if you could have a look at (and show your followers) this blog. http://thestoryofanitandshe.tumblr.com/ It’s a journal of the relationship between a gender-fluid asexual, and a straight girl with an exception.
There’s only very little up at the moment, but that’s because it’s new. Thanks for your time. =)
Ace Visibility Materials
nextstepcake:
So, I’ve been thinking about making some kinds of ace visibility materials - something along the lines of those kinds of pamphlets you see sometimes that are like “Bisexuality - what you should know”, or like “coming out as gay or lesbian” or whatever. Basic info on asexuality.
So, tumblrites, I have a question - what format would you most like to see for these? I hope to do...
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ATTN: Asexuals/demisexuals/grey-a's of tumblr
ianishollywood:
grrrlmeetsworld:
grrrlmeetsworld:
Hey, hello!
I’m looking to write an asexual-oriented zine.
Currently, I am hoping to find some people who would like to contribute.
Anything you can contribute would be great: a simple sentence, paragraph, or even an article. Pictures are great, too! I’d love to hear about your experiences, whether or not you’ve ‘come out’ and things of...
5 tags
Gender Biased Sexual 'Education' is failing...
et-tu-dionyse:
thelittlekneesofbees:
tumblinfeminist:
Things girls are taught in Sexual Education: -Basic terminology of female genitals and reproductive system -Anatomy of male genitalia -About menstruation -About Pregnancy / Contraception -About STDs -Abstinence only -Guilt
Things boys are taught in Sexual Education: -Anatomy of male genitalia -Basic terminology of female genitals and...
acesecrets asked: Hello! Please could you spread the word about "Ace Secrets" - an anonymous secrets Tumblr for asexuality related secrets!
Thank you <|
Thank you <|
Important! Ace Prom Date Has CHANGED
demisexuality:
It has been moved to a week sooner: September 9th, 2011.
Time is still 7 PM to 11 PM US Central Time.
Everything else is the same.
Reblog this around so everyone who wants to attend Ace Prom knows about the change of date.
July 2011
8 posts
Ace Prom!
southpawscopic:
demisexuality:
Occasionally on tumblr I see posts about “Tumblr prom” or “[insert group here] prom” so I thought “Why don’t we have an Ace prom?” I mean, so many of us don’t know any other people who are part of the asexual spectrum offline and it’s not like we can all (easily) meet up somewhere, so why not have something where we all kind of hang out online together?
Anyway,...
Anonymous asked: Pretty sure you've always wanted to see me naked.. Well.. I'm feeling pretty adventurous today so go to datelink2(dot)com (switch [dot] with .) then sign up and find my profile under the username 'lolsummer69'. I hid my face in the pictures. but I want you to guess who I am and then hit me up on Facebook lol. Good luck.
2 tags
hail-seitan:
Dan Savage talks to David Jay, founder of AVEN
I decided to listen to Dan Savage’s podcast, because up until now, I’ve only read quotes from him, and I’ve had a problem with a lot of the things I’ve read about him. I have to say, hearing him speak directly did not change my opinions about him at all. In fact, he came off as a bit sexist in parts, which added to my dislike. Referring...
Charlie the Unicorn, Ace Detective: More thoughts... →
And during all of this hullabaloo, as it has become increasingly (painfully) obvious that we’re never all going to be able to come to a happy agreement and gather round a cake in peace*, it has similarly become increasingly obvious that here, as withmost arguments about anything, a lot of the problem is just misunderstanding bolstered by ignorance and liberally glazed with irrational rage and...
2 tags
Physiological and Subjective Sexual Arousal in...
nextstepcake:
So I finally get back from my blissful but mosquito-ridden week of internet-free camping to find another big flame war going on in the asexuality tag. I guess it started with amazingatheist’s demand for the scientific study of asexuals and arousal?
Well, guess what guys. It’s already been done. And get this - instead of proving that we don’t exist, it actually serves to validate...
The 30 Day Asexuality Challenge
asexualheart:
I feel like we deserve to have one of our own, so I decided to write one up. :-)
1. What is your romantic/sexual orientation? 2. Are you out? To whom? 3. How old were you when you realized you were asexual? What made you realize it? 4. Do you identify as a part of the queer community? What communities do you identify with? 5. Tell the story of the first person you came out to. 6....
June 2011
13 posts
aiiim asked: Info on the post about Girls With Slingshots!! omg I love this comic
Erin is probably asexual. Her profile says that she's not too sure about sex but I've followed the series from the start and she's very much romantically interested in Jamie but not sexually.
Jamie struggled a while ago with her identity, thinking she was straight then a lesbian...
Erin is probably asexual. Her profile says that she's not too sure about sex but I've followed the series from the start and she's very much romantically interested in Jamie but not sexually.
Jamie struggled a while ago with her identity, thinking she was straight then a lesbian...
2 tags
Asexuality as Identity (please note comment added...
pflagmom:
Asexuality as Identity
by ERICA CHU on May 24, 2011 • 3:46 pms
“After this failed relationship, I guess I’ll be asexual for a while.”
I’ve overheard a lot of people make joking comments similar to this. What they mean is their sexual relationships aren’t quite working out the way they want, so they are accepting their unfortunate circumstances. Though the joke may seem...
oh my god, really?
bittergrapes:
homoerotics:
“YEAH, SHE’S SO ASEXUAL SHE’S ASKING FOR LESBIAN PORN. /ROLL EYES”
Fuck you, fuck your attitude, fuck your pathetic argument, and fuck your ignorance. I’m ace, and I write, read and ENJOY het/slash/femslash fiction where sex occurs. BECAUSE ASEXUALITY =/= A COMPLETE AND TOTAL DISGUST AND/OR DISINTEREST IN SEX. ASEXUALITY IS A COMPLETE AND TOTAL LACK OF SEXUAL...
Yeah, you're hot. But that doesn't mean I want to...
ellejohara:
Finding someone attractive doesn’t mean I want to fuck them. or date them, or even have a beer with them necessarily.
It just means their aesthetic is something I find pleasing in the same way I find some paintings or sculptures aesthetically pleasing.
I don’t need to own a Picasso or Brancusi any more than I need to date or sleep with an attractive person. It’s enough to simply...
Re: "Asexual Erasure — Don’t Erase Asexual Men"
intrepidvector:
demisexuality:
This is a good post about what asexual men face, I think.
The mouseover and the link got switched! Corrected it in this reblog. Please edit the original.
Things that are rude to say in conversation with...
Do not say you are “proud of me for experiencing sexual attraction”, especially when the conversation is about how I don’t.
Do not invalidate my friend’s identity as an aromantic asexual by suggesting that something might have happened to him to make him reluctant to be in romantic relationships. (He’s not reluctant. He’s just wholly uninterested.)
Do not,...
Carnival of Aces 3: Call for Participation →
Your host this month is me, miller (aka Siggy), and the theme is community. I intentionally picked a very broad theme, because that’s what I like. Here are a few possible ideas:
How do you feel about the asexual community? What are some interesting aspects of it?
Are you part of other communities? What’s it like to be asexual in those communities?
We talk so much on partnered...
polisci-prelaw:
hidingoutfromitall:
hail-seitan:
How to be an asexual ally.
- Educate yourself and others about asexuality. - Speak up if you hear an asexual being ridiculed or harassed for their orientation. - Explicitly include asexuality and its related identities in sexual orientation-focused groups, workshops, discussions, etc. - Don’t automatically assume that everyone you meet is...
2 tags
“Being asexual is a life of … well, of fitting firmly outside of the projected...”
– Privilege Denying Asexuals… « Charlie the Unicorn, Ace Detective
More on Asexual Suicide
ace-reporter:
The owner of Narrow Path publishing is working on this. If you want to tell your own stories, you can e-mail her. The suicide rates among Asexuals are not tracked, and no one has decided to do any research on the topic. While the project is not scientific, it can help shed light on a problem that is not addressed in the Asexual community
Do not e-mail me or use any of the e-mails...
May 2011
25 posts
rattyhugs asked: That bird is a cockatiel. :)
Sexual Privilege Checklist tumblr is GO!
sexualprivilegechecklist:
Following epochryphal’s call for a collaborative tumblr some days ago, we now have a place and structure!
Start submitting! We want your pre-made bullet points, your works in progress, your less-directed but meaningful stream of consciousness, your constructive criticism, your points of discussion, your intersectional lenses, your thoughtful and respectful input on...
Virgin-Shaming is Unacceptable.
demisexuality:
outlawroad:
Just saying.
Doesn’t matter if said virgin is asexual or sexual, male or female.
This goes for abstinence and celibacy also. If a person chooses not to have sex for now or forever, there’s nothing wrong with that. They aren’t less cool or mature than the rest of the world who chooses to have sex as often as possible.
If you’re sexually active and you want people...