Jun 14 Reblogged
Ace kink stuff?
Hey guys!! this came up recently and has just come up again, does anyone have any resources or perspectives on asexual kink? I know of a bunch of people who are ace and kinky, but I’m never sure how comfortable they would be with being referred as a possible source of information/kinkjams.
I’m really good at talking about my kink boundaries myself, but I don’t have much of a perspective on being ace, so I’m hoping for like, some other people who wouldn’t mind being referred as a person to talk to?
Also I recall seeing an article on tips w/ negotiating consent during sexy stuff with ace people, does anyone have the link to that? Or any similar resources!
Can’t speak to the kink stuff, but this is a good article about negotiating consent with an asexual person:
Jun 12 Reblogged
(A)sexual is out on iTunes now y’all
The documentary’s out. Better get to watchin’! I am a movie star. (So what if it’s indie? It’s awesome.)
It is worth mentioning that it doesn’t seem to be available outside the U.S.
May 31 Reblogged
(A)sexual: Support The Creator
H’okay guys, turns out that the copy of (A)sexual on youtube was put up without the creator’s permission.
Which ain’t cool, and I wont condone that kinda shit.
The fact that there is a documentary about asexuality is absolutely fantastic, and we should support the filmmakers who took the time and effort to create it.
- Don’t watch the Youtube link.
- Wait until the creator sells it.
I think that’s a pretty fair exchange.
You cannot buy the film yet, but the website has a donation box. You can check out the site hurr —-> http://www.artsengine.net/asexual
EDIT: I just checked out the creator’s facebook page, and it says this:
June 5th — you can watch the film in the US on iTunes, YouTube, xbox and more!! So excited!!
So just wait a few more days, and you can watch it on Youtube. And your Xbox. I’m not sure how that works, but it sounds pretty snazzy.
Apr 30 Reblogged
Looking For New Design Inspiration
So, I am now officially done with school for the year.
Half way done with undergrad. Officially declared my major as graphic design, declared my minor as art history. Gettin’ shit done. Yeah.
Anyway! Now that I’m done with school, and have a month to go before my internship begins, I’ll have hours on end to do absolutely nothing. And, well, instead of rotting away, I should probably keep my design skills up to snuff.
SO! This is for all you aces out there: What aspects of asexuality would you like to see me do a design for? I’m super into infographics at the moment, so I’m willing to do something like this again. Or something like the more personal banner things. Or I could do something else. The possibilities are endless, and I’m bored, so anything goes.
I just want some ideas to help spread visibility.
Possible ideas I was considering:
- Infographic consisting of all sexualities (heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, asexual, ect., ect., ect..), and how they connect. Because we’re all a big family, ya know?
- Explanations of romantic and aromantic/non-romantic attractions. I’m super interested in this, and it’s pretty vast. Would be kinda cool to attempt to map it out.
- Personal explorations. (EG: Coming out stories, experiences of discriminations, relationships, general ace life things.)
- Print campaign consisting of brochures, postcards, business cards, and other fun things people can print out and actually use.
Just some ideas.
What do YOU want to see? As always, ask box is always open!
Apr 28 Reblogged
A comic about the different types of attraction one might feel. I saw these floating around on tumblr. These were originally taken from a website about asexuality. Although, I think people who are not asexual feel these regularly too. There’s all kinds of attractions for all kinds of people. Enjoy.
I wish I could carry this comic around to explain to people why my aesthetic attraction to certain beautiful men does not make me straight.
ditto. I’d love to show this comic to everyone who casually dismisses asexuals who experience aesthetic/romantic/sensual attraction to the opposite gender as “just confused/afraid of sex and appropriating queerness when [they]’re actually straight.” especially great coming from self-identifying queer folk, totally missing their own hypocrisy.
god damn i hate the word “squish” (speaking personally, if you like it that’s just fine) but that’s me with
a lot of people
Apr 03 Reblogged
Asexuals deserve a history.
And y’know, sometimes I worry that bits and pieces of it are being lost? Because there are things that I know, as someone who has been around for a fairly long time and listened in a lot of spaces, that I think other people might not. I’m thinking here of things like the Non-Libidoists, who were an early asexual splinter group that set itself in opposition to AVEN and who indirectly influenced AVEN’s culture (fun fact: they used unicorns as their symbol, and I have seen aces years later saying they were uncomfortable using unicorns as a symbol because of that). Or the early history around the term “ace.” (I remember there used to be arguments on whether it should be spelled “ace” or “ase,” with people arguing very earnestly that they disliked “ace” because they felt it seemed too arrogant.) Or where the cake jokes came from. Stuff I remember either because I was around for them or because other people who were around told me when I asked.
I also wonder how much in the way of historical understanding of why particular asexual communities and institutions have formed the way they have is being passed down. I suppose being a largely Internet-based history helps a lot, in terms of retrieving important documents and conversations, but I do sometimes worry about the lack of historical resources for interested parties.
I do want to link here to Andrew Hinderliter’s fabulous set of posts on the history of defining “asexual” as we know it, and also to this graphic and AVEN post that has a truly fabulous timeline of some important historical events from the last ten years. Also interesting may be this post by someone who was heavily involved in the writing of AVEN’s FAQ. Anyone else have either cool resources or thoughts on this? Aside from Andrew’s work and the AVEN post linked in that timeline, I don’t think I’ve really seen a lot of discussion on creating a cohesive resource of asexual history that can be pointed to be people looking to learn more.
Well, I know there’s the Asexuality Archive being set up over here: http://www.asexualityarchive.com/
In addition, Hex has just joined us on the PT recently as PT historian, so sometime in the future we will probably start seeing some more results from that - they’ve also done some other cool history stuff on AVEN before, so I’ll have to dig up some of the links to that later.
I know there are actually a lot of bits and pieces of history recorded in various places in blogs, forums, in the wiki - I think the key is just gathering them all into one place.